UNLEASHED (at work & home) with Colleen Pelar

Malena DeMartini, CTC, CDBC

What we want to do is very often different from what we should do (or at least, what we think we should do). Obligations and responsibilities need to be met, but the temptation is always there to push them off until later and spend the current moment doing something more pleasurable.

Malena DeMartini joined me today to talk about balancing doing what we ought vs. doing what we want and to take me through her roundabout path from corporate America to enthusiastic dog trainer.

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Veronica Jarvinen, DVM

None of us like to acknowledge that things might not turn out fine, yet we all know deep down that that’s always a possibility. How do we deal with the chance that things might not be all right in the end?

For Veronica Jarvinen, founder of EMMAvet Veterinary Urgent Care, it’s important to acknowledge plainly that things might not be fine, make sure we’ve done everything we can to ensure the best possible outcome, and then go forward secure in the knowledge that we’ve done our best. She joined me today to talk about using this mindset in her own business to create an intentional workplace where her employees can thrive both personally and professionally.

Amy Binder, EdD, MAT, MA, LPC, CPDT-KA, UW-AAB - ”Look at the truth, let go of judgment”

We hear a lot about the importance of not judging, whether that’s not judging ourselves or not judging others. Most of us probably try to live by that advice, but it’s often harder than it sounds. So often we fall into attitudes of judgment without even meaning to, especially when it comes to ourselves, where our judgments are often the harshest of all. That attitude of judgment can cloud our perspective on things, making it hard for us to see the actual truth of the matter.

Learning to recognize those moments of judgment and peel them away to see the truth underneath can lead to important insights about ourselves and give us clarity about our lives.

Psychologist and dog trainer Amy Binder joined me today to talk about how her work with at-risk kids and at-risk dogs taught the importance of letting go of judgment to look at things honestly. 

Collin Funkhouser - ”The ideal form of work feels like play, but still accomplishes something useful and valuable. Joyful for you. Helpful to others.”

We’re used to the idea of work and play being not just separate things, but often polar opposites. Work is serious, play is frivolous. Work is necessary, play is more optional. Work is useful and productive, play is our less useful reward for putting in all that productive work. But while this is definitely the case sometimes, does it really have to be the case all the time?

Professional pet sitter Collin Funkhouser came on the show to discuss this very thing. Join us as we discuss what the ideal form of work looks like, and finding joy and value in your job- even if it’s one that people don’t take seriously.

Misty Hampton, CCBC - ”Replace ’Should’”

“I should do this, I should do that…” Our lives are full of “shoulds,” of tasks and errands that we feel obligated to do, and that gnaw away at us when we don’t. Many of us go through our days carrying the guilt and anxiety that results from not having done or accomplished everything we “should.” Needless to say, this is hardly a recipe for a healthy or flourishing emotional life.

What if it didn’t have to be this way, though? What if we could free ourselves from the guilt of “should” and instead embrace a mentality where even necessary tasks become a conscious choice we make, instead of an obligation? Cat behavior consultant Misty Hampton joined me today to talk about the freeing power of getting rid of the “should”s in her life.

Pat Blocker, CPDT-KA, FFCP - ”It’s quite possible that an animal has spoken to me and I didn’t catch the remark because I wasn’t paying attention.” E.B. White

Communication is at the heart of any relationship. So much of a healthy relationship depends on being able to communicate our thoughts, feelings, needs, and desires to the people we love. This isn’t always easy, of course- wires get crossed, words get misunderstood. And all of this gets even harder when one of us isn’t human. We love our pets and we think (or at least hope) that they love us as well. But how can we be sure when we can’t speak the same language? Is it even possible for us to have authentic communication with our animal friends?

Pat Blocker joined me today to talk about this very issue. A lifelong animal lover, Pat has always had a desire to communicate with pets. Now, in her capacities as both a dog trainer and a certified animal communicator, she does just that. Join us as we discuss how we can communicate better with animals, and what we can learn simply by paying attention.

Laura Perkins, CPDT-KA - ”Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has beauty, magic and power in it.”

Each of us has visions of what we want in life- things we hope to do, achieve, and experience. Envisioning, planning, and daydreaming about these things can be useful and is certainly enjoyable, but when it comes time to take action to try and make them a reality…well, that can be intimidating, even frightening. It’s often tempting--and always easier--to simply enjoy the daydream.

So how do we inspire ourselves to act? To take that first step towards making our dreams a reality? For Laura Perkins, it means remembering the “beauty, magic, and power” of boldness, even in the seemingly small actions of sending that email or making that phone call. She joined me today to talk about her career, building a community, and being willing to be bold.

Meghan Herron, DVM, DACVB - ”We CAN do it all... we just need to gain some comfort with mediocrity.”

It makes sense to say that we can’t do it all. After all, we’re each just one person, and no one person can do everything, right?

But then you meet someone like Dr. Meghan Herron who seems like she really has done it all- gone to veterinary school, raised two kids, and single-handedly started an entirely new program of study at OSU- and you can’t help but wonder if maybe there is some way to do it all.

But how? What’s the secret? How can you possibly do everything you both need and want to without going stark raving mad?

Dr. Herron joined me today to talk about her work as a behavioral vet and her philosophy to “doing it all” while protecting your own mental health and avoiding burnout.

Maria Giaccio - ”I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” ~ Maya Angelou

Our lives very rarely take the paths we think they will. Even if we end up where we planned, we seldom take the route we thought we would. Looking back, it’s sometimes easy to see how a combination of seemingly unconnected chances, events, and decisions led us to where we are (for good or ill), but in the moment we often feel as though we’re flying blind. And then there are the times we’re sure we’ve made the right decision only to look back later and see how wrong or misinformed we were, despite our best efforts.

Professional pet sitter Maria Giaccio always thought she’d work with animals, but didn’t get there the way she thought she would. Join us as we discuss her roundabout route to owning a doggy daycare, reflect on Maya Angelou’s words about knowing and doing better, and remember the importance of having compassion for our past selves.

Stephanie Kern

Whether it’s relationships, jobs, finances, health, or a dozen other areas, everybody wants to feel as though they have control over their life. We crave the security that comes from knowing–or at least feeling like we know–where we’re headed, and that things are going according to plan. But the truth is that we actually have control over far fewer things than we might like. 

While facing the limits of our control can be frightening, it can also be liberating and allow us to achieve a certain amount of calm, even in the face of uncertainty. Today, dog trainer and vet tech Stephanie Kern joined me to talk about her experiences working with dogs and how she’s learned to embrace the fact most things are outside of her control.

 

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