UNLEASHED (at work & home) with Colleen Pelar

122. Stephanie Frank

We often hear that we need to “find our purpose” in life. But so often, that’s easier said than done. What does it even mean to “have a purpose” and how on earth are we supposed to determine something simultaneously so vague and so weighty? How do we know if we’re right or if what we’ve latched on to even is a “purpose” at all?

Stephanie Frank has worked in computer technology, then as a business consultant, and finally as a dog trainer, but it was the poignant words of a friend’s widow that ultimately helped her define not just was purpose meant, but what her particular one was. She joined me today to discuss not only finding one’s purpose, but living without regret and learning to trust the universe.

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121. Susan Marett, CPDT-KA, CSAT

Not everybody leaves a successful culinary career to take up dog training almost on a whim. But my guest today, Susan Marett, did just that. Along the way, she’s learned a great deal about everything from self-acceptance to the care and keeping of parrots.

Join us today for a conversation about encountering oneself, the best cure for sadness, taking up your rightful space, and even a sidetrack into falconry. Plus she gave us not one, but two sets of words that inspire her. Talk about overdelivering!

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120. Kim Cardeccia, MA, LPC

As anybody who has ever loved one knows, animals can help us be better people. Emotional regulation, compassion, and trust are all things that animals help us grow in, no matter our age or circumstances. In fact, it can even be its own form of therapy- literally. Today, licensed professional counselor and self-described “horse girl,” Kim Cardeccia joined me to talk about how she combines her love of horses with her practice of therapy to help people learn to bring their brightness to the world.

119. Kym Iffert, CPDT-KA, LFDM, FPPE, FFCP

At first glance, there wouldn’t seem to be much in common between interior decorating and dog training. But, like so many things in life, scratch the surface and you find more similarities than you might think. My guest today, Kym Iffert, left the world of interior design to pursue a career in dog training, and found that the skills she used as a decorator gave her a valuable perspective on dogs. Join us as we discuss her journey from beautifying spaces to training dogs, the difficult decision that led her there, and finding joy and purpose even in hard and draining work.

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118. Kristina Bryte

We talk a lot about the importance of “being yourself,” but what exactly does that mean? How are we supposed to do it? And how can we help other people do it as well? Although it may not be what we first think of, one of the most important things we need in order to be our authentic selves- and help others do the same- is safety. Only when we feel safe are we able to really explore ourselves, to be honest about our weaknesses, and lean in to our strengths.

Dog trainer (and aspiring therapist) Kristina Bryte came on the show today to talk about creating a space where not only people but animals can feel safe to be their true selves.

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117. Carol Sumbry, CCPDT, IAABC, CFDM, Certified Meditation Teacher

The term “free spirit” is frequently used to describe all different kinds of people--hippies, artists, slightly crazy geniuses. Really, almost anyone who lives life a little off the beaten path. But what does that phrase actually mean? Just what, exactly, makes one a “free spirit?” And if you’re not one, can you become one? If so, how?

Today on the show, I talked to dog trainer Carol Sumbry about this very topic. Join us as we discuss her (rather circuitous) path into the world of animals, feeding your soul, and finding moments of gold in your everyday life.

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116. Lauren Van Duzer, ACDBC

Without meaning to- or sometimes even realizing it- it can be the easiest thing in the world to limit ourselves. All too often we allow outside expectations, other people’s opinions, and our own fear to confine us to a life that is less than fulfilling.

 

It doesn’t have to be this way, though. Dog trainer Lauren Van Duzer joined me today to talk about how a tragic event pushed her out of her comfort zone and gave her the courage to live a life reaching beyond the confines of “safety.” https://colleenpelar.com/116

115. Helen St. Pierre, CPDT-KSA, CDBC, LFDM, OSCT

Old age, death, and loss are topics most of us prefer to avoid. They’re uncomfortable, sometimes even painful to discuss, and most people don’t like to think about their own mortality.

Death, however, is an inevitable part of life, and avoiding conversations about it can make it even harder for us to become comfortable with it. Helen St. Pierre- founder of No Monkey Business Dog Training and the non-profit Old Dogs Go To Helen- has spent the past several years helping senior and hospice dogs to live the best life they can before passing on. She joined me today to talk about becoming comfortable with the reality of death while finding meaning and beauty in caring for animals at the end of their life. https://colleenpelar.com/115

Annie Phenix, FFCAT, FDM

Everybody has a story that will break your heart. We all have our own traumas and dog trainers are no exception. Working with dogs and their owners is deeply rewarding, but it is also often a difficult and emotionally grueling task that leaves trainers feeling burnt out and emotionally and mentally exhausted. While this is a real problem, there are few resources out there designed to help trainers and behaviorists who are struggling in this regard.

Annie Phenix knows firsthand the stress and pressure that leads many dog trainers to leave the field they loved, feeling exhausted and frustrated. She joined me today to talk about her own journey in and out of dog training, and her mission to provide support and advocacy for struggling trainers.

Mikkel Bekker, CBCC-KA, CDBC, KPA CTP, CPDT-KA, CTC, FFCAT

Whether we like it or not, fear is a powerful force in our lives- fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of losing the people and things that are important to us. Even as much of the animal world shifts to a “fear free” mindset when it comes to training and interacting with animals, many of us still struggle to let go of our own fears. Too often, that fear keeps us trapped in uncomfortable and painful situations, or prevents us from doing things we love or aspire to.

 

Mikkel Becker, the lead animal trainer at Fear Free Pets, came on the show today to talk about overcoming the fears that hold us back and keep us from living full and joyful lives. Join us as we discuss giving yourself grace, granting yourself permission to do things, and getting career advice from Diane Sawyer. https://colleenpelar.com/113