UNLEASHED (at work & home) with Colleen Pelar

Want to feel like you have more time? Volunteer!

When you are exhausted or burned out, it may come as a surprise to learn that volunteering your time and energy can be one of the very best ways to get your mojo back. It's counter-intuitive, but true.

Studies have shown that volunteering increases your empathy, builds social bonds, and leads to greater happiness. In fact, people who volunteer feel like they have more time than people who don't (even when they have the same demands on their time).

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Organization - Jamie Holms, RVT

Jamie Holms, RVT, says her extraordinary organizational skills are a coping strategy that developed during a traumatic childhood. Quite simply, she learned to control as many factors as she could to help her deal with all of the chaos and stress she faced daily.

Today those organizational skills make her a valued team member and help her accomplish her goals. 

Coping strategies are interesting. We all have them. We all need them. Some are healthy and productive, others are not, but all of them spring from a place of self-protection.

The tricky part about coping strategies is that they often have their roots in childhood. You may not be aware of what you do to help yourself manage stress or deal with overwhelm because you’ve been doing it for so long that the behaviors are on autopilot. You may not even notice when you’re using them.

Jamie had to make deliberate choices and learn new strategies to ensure that she brings forth the best of her coping skills and leaves behind the elements that no longer serve her.

Developing the self-awareness to observe your behavior and make deliberate choices about it is quite simply the most powerful, life-changing skill ever. It allows you to explore new ways of being, to find what feels right and true for you, and to make deliberate choices about how you want to live your life.

Easier said than done, right? Absolutely. There’s a learning curve here, but it’s worth it. So worth it.

And this awesome discussion with Jamie Holms is filled with practical tips to get you started.

 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• 168 Hours, You Have More Time than You Think, by Laura Vanderkam: https://amzn.to/35c8ZDJ 
• I Know How She Does It, by Laura Vanderkam: https://amzn.to/2FdzLBm
• Dr. Andy Roark: https://drandyroark.com/
• Uncharted Vet conference: https://unchartedvet.com/
• RecoverInitiative.org: https://recoverinitiative.org/

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Using rules as a tool for exploration

Exploration is something that most of us think is a good idea in theory, but we don’t do it.

The estimates vary, but neuroscientists and psychologists agree that large chunks of human behavior are merely habits and patterns. The low estimates are 40%. Some estimates go as high as 80-90% of behavior is just on autopilot.

That’s good because it makes us efficient, but it doesn’t necessarily make us happy.

That’s where rules come in. You can create your own rules to spark creativity and exploration, to create new opportunities, and to discover new things about yourself. 

Exploration - Sheila Newenham

Sheila Newenham, DVM, talked with Colleen Pelar about exploration. The whole world is waiting for you. Where do you want to go? What do you want to see? What can you learn from being open to new experiences? www.colleenpelar.com/55

Working through Worries to Make a Decision

The Worst-Case/Best-Case/Mostly Likely Framework is a way of facing and addressing worries.

Your brain is wired to notice everything that could potentially go wrong. Often this can lead to crippling indecision, high anxiety, and catastrophic thinking. It leaves you feeling stuck.

This tool helps you

• Recognize the extreme unlikelihood of your worst-case scenario fears by providing an equally extreme counterpoint in the opposite direction.
• Become more aware of the negativity bias so that you are better able to make real-time adjustments in your thinking
• Use humor and positivity to create a broader, more creative thinking
• More accurately assess the outcomes of possible your choices so you can make decisions based on logic, not anxiety

A big thank you to Alicia Obando of Pitter Patter Parenting in Chicago for helping me demonstrate this tool. 

Reinvention - Karen Sinovich

Is there something you’ve been longing to do? What would give you the courage to dive in? Karen Sinovich, an animal behavior practitioner, shared thoughts about reinvention. You have only one life, but that doesn’t mean you need to have only one passion. www.colleenpelar.com/56

BONUS: Learning to give grace to yourself and others

"Grace" is a complicated word. It conjures images of elegance, finesse, and fluidity. It's endowed with goodwill, kindness, and generosity.

Grace sounds effortless, but it's not! Grace is an active decision.

Developing requires great self-awareness. Grace asks you to accept the reality of the moment just as it is, while also looking for the good in it now and the good that can come from it.

Learning how to give yourself and others grace opens you up to stronger relationships and greater resilience. https://colleenpelar.com/grace-julie-smith

BONUS: Tips for developing your grit

Understanding the elements of grit can help veterinarians, vet techs, dog trainers, shelter/rescue teams, and other pet professionals find the energy and drive to keep going AND get better results.

This solocast is the companion to episode 52 of the UNLEASHED (at work & home) podcast in which Dr. Erik Hofmeister and I discussed grit. https://colleenpelar.com/grit-erik-hofmeister

Grace - Julie Fudge Smith

Julie Fudge Smith, CPDT-KA, talked with Colleen Pelar about how grace begins with intention and humility. How much grace do you extend to others? How much do you give yourself? Explore some strategies for incorporating more grace into your life. www.colleenpelar.com/53

Grit - Erik Hofmeister

Erik Hofmeister, DVM, DACVAA, DECVAA, MA, MS, talked with Colleen Pelar about grit and how consistent effort helps pet professionals get better results than natural talent. Eager to develop your own grit? You’ll discover some simple strategies in this episode. www.colleenpelar.com/52